Today somehow I felt nice. It is actually not good, but Yes knowing that you are not alone who is facing something. Sometimes, when you find like-minded fighting for the same good in war, you feel great and it happened to me.
Facing difficulty with the social mentality, when you don't change your name after marriage is a reality for many individuals. It can be a challenging decision to make, but it is vital to stay true to your own values and identity and to be confident in your choices. All this came back to me after reading an article in Sakal Daily. On the dart, I cannot say but they have tried raising voices against this less-discussed concept of our society. Those only know the fact who actually I can say tried to go against the flow of so-called social norms.
In our cultural society, there is a culture (Maybe others too, but I want to discuss ours), and changing one's name after marriage is seen as a traditional and expected practice. However, this social mentality can be challenging for individuals (Like Me) who choose to keep their own names after getting married. Just sharing my thoughts too, and not to mention, I faced a lot on all fronts. When I came across the post of Ketan Palaskar from Sakal, We had a chat over facts of this real-time problem faced by many who chose to keep their identity. What problem such people face will be a small question if we see the list of it as considered as an answer to it.
To list what I faced, can say that problem is a small word to it. People look on to you so humiliatingly that you have not changed your name is quite a big thing. Anyway, let's not enter into it. Many are already listed by Ketan in his post. I faced nearly all. Thanks to Kartik that he accepted my condition of keeping my name even before we started discussing further finalizations before our marriage. But our beloved Government employees in Aadhar and post office were superb, they were toh not ready at all to accept that a woman is not changing her name after marriage. So many things are there, but some are posted here.
Firstly, not changing your name may lead to social scrutiny and criticism from those who adhere to traditional views (Especially in Laws). Some may view it as a sign of disrespect to your spouse or family, or as a rejection of cultural norms. People forcefully save your number as per your after-marriage name.
Secondly, it may create confusion in social and professional settings, especially if your spouse or family members have different last names. This can lead to difficulties in identification, communication, and paperwork. (Thanks to our Government servant friends)
Thirdly, the decision to keep your own name after marriage can also lead to internal conflict and questioning of your own beliefs and values. It may require courage to stand up against social norms and make a choice that is true to your own identity and autonomy.
However, People like me and open to ideas like mine can clearly tell you that it is important to remember that choosing to keep your own name after marriage is a personal decision that should be respected. It is a choice that can be made for various reasons, such as maintaining professional identity, preserving family heritage, or simply because it feels right for the individual.
Think and let me know what you think too!!
